That's the title of a cool book about reproduction for kids, but it's perfect for todays topic LOL.
A couple of days ago, my son had a message on his FB from someone he didn't know. He called me and asked who the hell she was cause she had the same surname as us. She is actually his dads ex, makes my skin crawl just thinking about her LOL. Anyway, she claimed to be looking up people with the same surname as her, she didn't send me any message so obviously bullshit, but not a biggie. She then goes on to tell him that his brothers have been looking for him, they want to see him, they care about him, blah blah. Now his brothers aren't babies, one turns 40 next year and the other is about to turn 30 or 31, I get the year mixed up lol, and my son is 20. Their father died before my son turned 2, snf he hasn't seen them since not long after his dad died. I'm not pointing the finger of blame here that's not what this is about, but to say they have been looking for him, when so many people knew where we were is a load of crap LOL. Personally I believe there was some interference going on by my in laws who I don't speak to and have no desire to speak to, as well as the fact that the boys were obviously grieving and no doubt their lives weren't all fun and games. I'm not going to dwell on any of it, because I think it will be good for him to get to know them, and he's not a little kid he can see through bullshit, he sure as hell speaks enough of it LOL. They also have to have a lot of stories about their dad that they can tell him, they did know him for a longer time than he did and he has only had me and his sisters as well as his late uncle to rely on for tales of derring-do. I can see that it will be good for them as well, so I'm happy.
Anyway all that led to all these other questions from him, about others saying they are related to him. Now it gets complicated. I was married before, and so was his dad. My daughters father, or rather sperm donor, is not the wonderful man they grew up calling dad, thank god for that. Dales brothers have a different mother, a fact he doesn't have a problem with as he says I'm the better of the choices (still thinking about whether to be insulted or not). So of course the 2 of us had different inlaws who had children of their own, which means there are a bunch of cousins by marriage, blood cousins and just cause we said they are your cousins cousins.
Lets add in another complication, just for fun. My ex husbands sister had a child to my late husbands ex brother in law before they broke up. She actually knew my husband before I did, I got the better deal out of them LOL. So technically any kids that the brother in law had had before or after his marriage are not related to my son, as there is no blood between us. But they call themselves his cousins. Doesn't worry me, they can call themselves whatever they want, it just all gives me a headache trying to explain it to my son. This is all stuff he would of grown up knowing if he'd had that vital contact with his brothers. He had a message from a girl saying long time no see, he replied, ummm yeh, considering I don't even know you LOL. Cause he's right he doesn't know her, she is the daughter of my ex sister in law and his dad's ex brother in law. They have met several times, the most memorable was at our wedding, they made a cute couple LOL.
So there you have it son, the answer to your question is, your a mutt. Your family line branches all over the damn place, it's tangled, and messy. The trail runs all over the world, if you want to track it all go ahead, as for me, I'm going to take something for my headache and go to bed!
Catch ya
Cathy
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