This one has been a long time coming. You all know from previous posts how proud I am of all my children, they are all different and walk different paths. They have their moments when you just want to strangle them, and I'm sure that goes both ways, but they are all my proudest achievement.
That said this blog is about one of those children, the middle child (no syndromes seem to have attached to her), and it doesn't mean that I think more of her than the others (I know they read this LOL). This is more to talk about how truly amazing she is along with her husband. There will be no names mentioned, but those of you who know us personally will know who they are.
My daughter had her first child at the age of 16 while still living at home and going to school. It wasn't easy on any of us,most of all her, but she managed to continue her schooling (yes I helped LOL) and finish off her Year 12 as she had always planned. It took her a bit longer but she still did it.
She is now 27 and along with her first child has had 2 more, and has gained a stepson by marriage. Pretty full on family with just those, but her and her husband have also fostered 2 siblings, and how they manage always amazes us. She had a 9 yr old and an almost 2 yr old when she had her 3rd, born in the shower at home hehehehe. Then when they learnt of a situation with a family member they stepped up and took in a little baby girl. They hesitated, they both knew she could have issues and that having 2 babies was not going to be easy, but they still did it. And now with those 2 little girls both 1 they have taken in another baby. He is a cutie.
They got the call they said yes, and that's just the sort of people they are. I know there are other wonderful foster parents out there, but this is about the ones I know personally and no one in our family doubts that if anyone can do it they can. It's not easy for them, support that was offered has since been withdrawn, but the kids (every one of them) is loved and well cared for. We all do what we can, but it's not easy when you work (like me) and have your own young family (her older sister) to deal with. But we do what we can, which is pretty much what its all about.
Not only are they foster parents, but we are a foster family, these kids are as much a part of our lives as the ones born into it, and they are loved by us all. Everyone knows how hard it is to raise a child, imagine getting a phone call with no notice to take in another. I'm not sure it's something I could do, but am proud to have family members that can.
They have it hard with that many kids, having to get a big car, and rent a big house is all expensive. Having to keep up with washing for that many kids is hard, and constantly cleaning up after them isn't the fun thing it seems. But they do it all, and as I said they do it with very little help. I'm surprised they haven't both gone insane, or maybe it's just they always were and we never noticed LOL. With all the running around after the kids, my daughter was studying at home, and her husband has been training for a new job. By the end of the day they are both exhausted and dream about the day the kids will all be grown up. But they don't wish it for now, they would miss out on too much, and while it might be easier if the kids were bigger and able to do more to help out, you never want to miss out on all those important milestones.
So to my daughter and her husband, I raise a glass to you both and say "You guys are amazing, I wish more people in the world were like you. I'm proud of you both and so happy you are a part of my family. Love you"
Catch yas
Cathy
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